*****I am not trying to be negative in any way. I am only sharing honest thoughts and experiences. You will be exposed to a lot in high school, and I only want to prepare you.
P.S. I was not prepared for some of the things I witnessed my freshman year.
I only have one week left of summer (Ugh...a con of living in the south). This year I will be a SOPHOMORE. Yes, that's right I completed my freshman year, and let me tell you it was a learning experience. I am a stronger and wiser person from my first year of high school.This post is not aimed at scaring any upcoming freshman. That is why I chose not to entitle this as a "Freshman Survival Guide". I do not think I am a genius, but I feel I have enough knowledge to share some advice.
You might have heard this over a thousand times in your life, but trust me it is super important to always follow it. Be YOURSELF. In high school, you are walking into a brand new world. What I like to call the Pre- Real World. Not to sound like a PSA, but this world is scary. You will be exposed to people doing drugs, talking about drugs, and selling drugs. Basically, people making drugs their whole lives. Friends that you thought would not ever touch an illegal substance will do it. But that does not mean you have to. There are a lot of bad things in high school that you would be influence to do. If you remember your morals and who you are, you will be easy for you not to fall into the peer pressure. Superstars, if you stay true to yourself you will avoid disappointed friends, family, and the most important person: YOU.
"I probably have less than half of the friends I did my freshman year," words a former senior
told me.
Count how many friends you have from middle school that you will be going to high school with. You may have plenty of friends or you may be your main amigo. To be honest, you might do better by being your own best friend. I am not saying to be stuck up, and not let anyone in. But in high school, you are going to lose friends and learn who your true friends are. For me, I never actually had true friends. I only associated with people. Meaning, I kept my relationships with people to eating at the same lunch table or casual conversations before school. My freshman year I did not have a friend I could share my true feelings with. It was difficult because I did go through hard times. Times when you need a girlfriend to vent to. Although I kept most of feelings bottled up, I do not regret it. If I did share any of my secrets to anyone, I know within a span of twenty minutes someone else would find out. Spreading other people's business like wildfire is the cause of ending many high school relationships. You thought middle school was full of drama? High school is on the next level. People do not quite mature until their senior year. After they have lost friends, from their catty actions. Use freshman year to really as a time to read people's motives. To see whether they are sincere when they are listening to your troubles or wanting to hear a good story to tell someone else. Also, use this time to focus on yourself. Try to make yourself a better and stronger person, so you can deal with conflict like a true lady with sass and class.Have you ever thought of falling in love with the senior football player? Most of you probably have. My school doesn't have a football team, but I definitely had crushes on the senior boys. None of them noticed me, just to let you know. But for some of my peers, they definitely got noticed. They soon found themselves in relationships that were not healthy. The senior, whether it was a girl or guy, would play mind games. They would get the person all hyped up in a text, but would act like they did not know them at school. Or would start drama in a late night phone call. The next day they would act like the drama never happened and act affectionate. Sadly, most of the seniors in these relationships only wanted sex. Thank goodness, the people I knew didn't give in, but they will remember the relationship experience. Some would try to forget, but they will always remember it. That is why I do not think it is best for a freshman to date a senior. You aren't on the same maturity level. The senior could be far more experienced in things you aren't prepared for. If you do want to date someone older, try a sophomore. There is only an one year gap between you all, so there is some relativity.
In high school, you are trying to find or create yourself. And sweetheart, you are not going to be the only person doing that. One week, you might see someone with purple streaks. Then, the next they have a head full of red. Or you will encounter a senior trying to find his way into manhood a.k.a not shaving for WEEKS. Whatever you see a person doing, please keep an open mind. If you see a girl dressed like Kesha, she could just be playing with her style. A guy wearing eyeliner may be considering a career as a makeup artist. We all are trying to find ourselves, so do not judge or taunt. Remember karma is a b- word.
Homework and exams are the hardest things when transitioning into high school, especially if you proscinate. Everyday you will be assigned homework, and everyday you should do your homework. Some Friday nights, I found myself working algebraic equations or balancing science equations. On top of your normal homework, teachers will assign projects and research papers. Do those on time too because no one ever wants to lose sleep due to finishing a freaking paper. As for exams, two weeks of your life you will be dedicated to them. One week for getting filling out study guides, making note cards, and attempting to study the your notes. The second week will be taking the exams and trying to cram in any last minute information. When the exams are over and you are homework free break, spend that time on yourself. Sleep the whole day if you want. Eat all the junk food you want. Spend all day on your computer if you want. Remind yourself that you deserve it.
Do not be afraid of joining clubs. You may be scared of joining a club that will have upperclassmen in it or a club your friends think is a lame. Join it anyway! Amazing opportunities can come your way just from signing up.There is a high chance of you finding a friend or friends with similar interest as you. Or you could work your way up and get a high leadership position. Which would look fabulous, on a college application. Go for it, superstar.
Enough with serious topics, let's talk about fashion, particularly Homecoming fashion. As I said before, my school does not have a football team, but we do have Homecoming. Homecoming is probably my favorite event of the year. Mainly, because I can wear studded heels, tease my hair as high as possible, wear a sassy red lip, and take selfies; all with no shame or explanation. One of my biggest tip is start searching for your dress a month earlier. Do not be the girl that is going from store to store three days before Homecoming looking for a dress* cough, cough* myself ( but I still looked fabulous).You will have plenty of time to go out of time or order online your dream dress. Plus, you'll have time to play with different hairstyles.
I know my dears, this was a long post. I just want you to be prepared, so you won't feel scared or nervous. When you are feeling those emotions, it is hard to enjoy the moment. And you really want to enjoy your first year of high school. I f you have any questions or just need to talk about a topic, my e-mail is saraheoutlet@gmail.com. Superstars, you will do just fabulous your freshman year.
Love ya,
Sarah E.
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