I recently came across this image the other day. If you can't read the text, then here it is:
"I think a lot of overweight girls are hypocrites. I'm naturally tall and skinny, I eat what I want, I don't starve myself, and I am beautiful.
So why are you allowed to love your 'curves' but it's wrong for me to love my 'bones'? Why is it okay for you to call me anorexic, but horrible for me to call you fat?
If you can tell me to 'gain weight', why can't I tell you to lose weight?
If you can feel beautiful for being big, I can feel beautiful for being small. Get over it."
I am in no way a skinny girl. You cannot see my bones, but you can definitely see my rolls. I have been able to wear women's clothing since my elementary school years. So imagine how I felt when I saw this picture. Imagine how I felt when I read those white letters typed across the image.
This message is hurting and quite childish. Yes, there is a sick game that exist between skinny and bigger girls. It's 2014, as the female race, we still have not realize that we are the same species. All girls have more in common than what they think. We all have battles against mother nature. We have the same opening between our legs. And we all have to deal with sexist at school and in the workplace. So why do we have this battle going on amongst us?
Do you want to know why this hurts me? Why this image brings me close to tears? It is not because I am facing the truth. I am a big girl and not a hypocrite. I am hurt because whoever said this does not know what it is like to wear a size 12. I don't what it is like to be skinny, but I know what it is like to sit in front of a computer screen and search for ways to lose weight. I know want it is like to spend summers trying to lose weight, but not ever coming close to my goal. I know what it is like not to be a victim, but a survivor of bullying.
Skinny is looked at as being beautiful. Women have been taught since the beginning to hate any fat or unnecessary weight on them. Recently, women have gained confidence to love the extra weight on them. Bigger girls weren't called beautiful from the jump. They had to search for that beauty from within. They didn't wait for society to call them beautiful. They found it in themselves.
There are a million people that would love a skinny model, but there is only so many people that would love a plus size girl. You want to know who that is? 1) Themselves 2) their mothers 3)if they are lucky, then their boyfriends 4) the Chili's waiter because big girls are great tippers.
If you are skinny, please do not think I am bashing you. If any big girl has offended you, I am sorry. You shouldn't give a flip what people say about you. You should love your bones just like I am learning to love my curves. And if this apology and encouragement isn't enough, then continue to call me and other girls that wear larges fat. I'll continue to pray for the day we can unite and share a sundae without being insecure of what the other thinks.
To my bigger girls, love yourself because this world isn't mature enough to be to love all our thickness. Do not think any less of yourself. There is more to you (much more than your weight) own it, but do not hate on others for owning and working what they have.
Girls in general, stop this name-calling, vicious, prejudice, female, unsisterlike, unladylike battle. Like Macklemore said,"We have to change us." We make up a majority of society. We have played a role in this divide. It is time for us to open our eyes and realize that we are all beautiful. We are reproducers of generations to come. Do you really want your daughter to be thrown into this battle and deal with bruises from hate? Be a soldier and fight this fight. Stand up for what is right!
Love ya,
Sarah E.
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