Are you tired of getting text like the one above? Don't you ever plan days dedicated to yourself or let's be honest, days when you do not want to be bothered by anyone, not even your mom? Then,one hard cookie in your group of friends decides to text and want to make plans. Normally, it's something you do not feel like doing, and it's extremely difficult not responding to them because they know your phone is glued to you. So, you have to come up with a lame excuse that they will find as total B.S. or you go along with the evening plan wishing the whole time you were in your bed. Superstar, I am here to tell you this issue can be prevented from happening again.
We have all had friends over. If you are like me, your phone is always in your hand, even if it is not in use. When your friends go home and want to make plans for you all to hangout again, you cannot pretend your phone isn't near you. You know why? Your friend has already seen the attachment you have with your phone. They now think you have to answer to their every text and do it QUICKLY. I understand why you wouldn't want to respond right away. Your human. We all get into those funks where we want to be left alone, also known as "me time". After awhile of dealing with this problem, I have come up with a few solutions. Here they are:
Tip #1 Put DOWN your phone- I know this may sound difficult since you are normally refreshing your Twitter feed every five seconds or texting your loverboy, but it will definitely pay off. Putting your phone away somewhere will show your friend that you aren't a text freak and probably don't check or worry about people texting you. Also, you will be giving your friend your full attention, which is important in friendships.
Tip #2 Casually bring up your schedule- As a teen, we have busy schedules. Some teens are busier than others. You might be busier than your friend, so you can casually bring up your weekly activities. "Girl, you wouldn't believe I have soccer practice three times this week", or "Everyday this week I am applying for a job. I have a fall wardrobe to save up for," are perfect ways to mention your schedule. Your friend might even feel bad for you, and will understand that you cannot always be there to answer her text. If you aren't busy with extracurricular activities or a job, homework is always the best excuse. "I cannot live my room to even pee with all of Mrs. Scott's homework,"your friend will understand.
Tip #3 Have a heart to heart with your friend- You might have a hard time with this. This tip involves the most honesty with your friend. Sometimes your friend might ask,"Hey why haven't you answered any of my text," which would be a great way to lead into your explanation. Just explain to your friend that sometimes you don't want to be bother. If you are a girl explaining this, then it is easier to explain. We all have those times where we just want to dedicate time to our self or prefer being alone because if you were around someone you would be a total b- word. Plus, with a busy weekday schedule, every girl deserves a weekend to herself. Hopefully, your friend will understand. She might even tell you about a time when she avoided your text because of the same reason.
Superstars, I hope these three tips help you. I just wanted to guide you in the right direction, so you know how to deal with those text. Dealing with your problems can only lead to happiness!
You Can Do It,
Superstars
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